It’s been a year everyone!!!!! Liana Who has officially been up and running for one whole year and I’m so proud! Luna was just a little baby when this vision came to life. Between the nursing, changing diapers, crying in my pillow and trying to find time with my husband I was staying up all hours of the night typing away trying to create content for you. When I first started I had no idea my blog would get big so fast. I remember the first day I launched my site it crashed within minutes because the web plan I had didn’t support the amount of audience that came on. I was excited, but I remember being so frustrated because I just wanted it to be perfect!
After being heavily involved with my blogging and social media I’ve come to one major conclusion…
I can’t live to please everybody…and thats okay.
Everyone lives differently. We all have different beliefs, values, relationships, thoughts and emotions. When you choose to put yourself out there publicly you have to expect all the criticism, and judgement that will come with it. You have to understand that everybody is entitled to their own opinions, and will interpret everything you post the way it makes sense for THEM.
So lets rewind a little…why did I start my blog?
With social media booming I didn’t like what it was starting to portrait.
How did all of a sudden it became cool to be perfect? To lie, manipulate and disguise real life?
I kind of touched on this topic before, but I feel like we are so hypnotized by what we see! That couple you look up to is really not #couplegoals if you knew the depths of their relationship. That flawless model isn’t actually as flawless as you think (you can thank photoshop for that side of the industry.) That mom who just had a baby doesn’t really have a flat stomach, she just knows her angles and probably mastered all functions on facetune. That man who you see traveling the world is actually pretty lonely at the end of the day….I can go on and on and on……You see, truth is, many of us mask who we really are yet we look up to each other!? How does that make any sense!? We are using IG as an outlet to create something that isn’t actually there. But I asked myself why????? Who are we trying to PLEASE??!?! Why are we so desperate to be favored by others? Desperately trying to expose ourselves in anyway possible in order to get more attention, more likes, more DM’s, more MORE and more.
Nobody can give you enough validation if you don’t like yourself.
And that is exactly the reason why I started my blog a year ago…I was that girl who portrayed a perfect life. I started feeling guilty when other women were looking up to the life I was putting out there. It wasn’t fair. I didn’t want to be “perfect.” I wanted to be relatable. I knew that if I started peeling back the layers and letting my true self show that I would be able to connect with others. Be able to build relationships with amazing people from all around the world. It was like my way of saying ” HEY, listen up, I want to remind you that no matter how wonderful someone appears on social media they too go through the same sh*t you do!!” In fact, I needed this much more than you think. Not only to make others feel comfortable about themselves, but for me to find myself. I was becoming so numb, and didn’t want to continue with pointless meaningful posts. I couldn’t go another day uploading a sexy photo of me on the beach with #livingthelife. Yes I know there are times when I post those kind of photos and captions!!!! BUT if you truly know me, you know to check my story and see the behind the scenes lol. I’m yelling at my husband who’s all covered in sand trying to get the perfect shot, Luna eating something she shouldn’t be, and I’m actually sweaty AF but the smoothing feature in photoshop just makes it look like I have a nice glow. So am I living the life? Sure! But it’s not the one you see based off of the photo.
For the most part my transparency and openness is appreciated, but its inevitable for negativity to drag in once in a while. I mean, I get it, I’m the one that invited everyone into my life front row seat and all so I understand different types of people will come and go but I just wish some of them would “go” without leaving their dingleberries behind in my comments. Often times I find myself reading things that completely make me question humanity. The comments can be so hurtful, offensive and hit me to the core. There are days where I have to take a break, and pull away from social media because I’m so disgusted with some of the people. You know, actually, before I became a mother nobody’s comments really upset me. Yeah I got annoyed of being called too skinny, but it never made my blood boil like it does when someone calls me a bad mother. If you’re reading this and you’re a mom then you know exactly what I’m talking about. It’s like a thousand knives to your heart.
So for those who ask “well, why do you do it then? Why don’t you just become more private?”
Don’t get me wrong, there are many things that I keep private. But why would I put myself in a bubble? I’ve had the pleasure to come across so many amazing people who relate to what I post. Who enjoy watching my family and I for the exact people we are every single day. Not just for the glitz and glam. It’s okay to be silly, wild, crazy, get upset, sad, ask for help, get advice and so on…I hope you too have those emotions because if not then you must be a very boring human.
I can respect those who live privately, and only show little pieces of themselves to us. What I can’t respect are the people who post meaningless selfies, vacations, materialistic bullsh*t day in, day out.
“Yes, for the millionth time we have seen your pretty face, but where’s your personality?”
Maybe I’m crazy, and I got this all wrong?? Maybe there are people out there that love seeing pointless sh*t?! I don’t know about you, but I’ll pass on watching numerous videos of a dolled up girl batting her eyes, biting her lip, trying to be sexy with Drake playing in the background. Or someone who’s constantly showing off where they are eating with their “man.” Like damn girl do you ever cook a meal for him at home?!? I don’t know, maybe becoming a mom changed my entire outlook on life?! But this is coming from personal experience. I’ve been on both sides of the spectrum, I was that girl who thought happiness came from where you went and what you did. But that was empty. It was SO f*cking empty compared to how I feel now. And by no means am I saying you NEED to start a family to be fulfilled, but dig deeper into your own self. You won’t even realize how thirsty your soul is until you remove yourself from these fake distractions and find your purpose.
What can you expect from me in the future?
I want you all to know who “Lianawhoo” is. My photos may inspire you, you might share my posts and tag your friends, but remember there’s more to me than my IG feed. Thats why I would love for you to visit my blog once a while, watch my IG story, reach out and say “hello!” Get to know me aside from my photos. I’ll always be honest with you guys. I see many bloggers diving deep into the marketing world, trying to sell us everything and anything! I genuinely only collaborate with companies who I myself would buy from! (The discount codes that I get are often times begged for!!! lol) I’ll always share all the useful tips and advice I collect along the way. The great thing about IG is learning from all of you. When I ask questions I usually end up posting the responses, because I know I’m not the only one needing answers. Especially when it comes to this mommy stuff. I can’t even tell you how much I’ve appreciated all the support and advice during this journey!
I’m going to continue being myself regardless of what others think. I know most of you follow me because you enjoy what I put out (that just sounded very slutty lol), but there are those who watch my every move finding any reason to pick on me…And here’s a nice juicy 🖕🏼 for that group of people =) I’ll try to be better at ignoring negative comments, but I can’t promise I won’t expose the ones that really set me off 💣
Last, but not least….I’ll definitely blog more often and stop being so lazy. Sorry, but the new bachelorette season started, and before that it was the Jersey Shower Reunion….oh and before that it was Vanderpump Rules…. (Yes, reality T.V is one of my guilty pleasures.)
As a thank you for all your love and support I put together this giveaway calling it the
“Summer Inspired Edition.”
A beautiful one size fits all beach cover up
Aviators because EVERYBODY looks good in them! These are Seafolly
Jo Malone Candle
English Pear & Freesia (One of my absolute favorites!!)
How cute are these straw bags?! A fashion must have!! This one is the “Masha Tote Bag” from Shopbop
Yves Saint Laurent Lipstick (the perfect nude pink)
♥ A little note for the winner: I purchased the candle, lipstick and sunglasses at Nordstrom. They have an amazing return policy just incase you need to return or exchange.
How to enter the giveaway:
♥ Must live in the U.S
♥ Must be following me on IG
♥ Repost your favorite photo of mine on your IG STORY with a little message saying why you enjoy my page/blog and TAG ME @lianawhoo
♥ THEN, REPOST THIS PHOTO BELOW ↓ (also in your IG STORY) again, don’t forget to tag me!
♥ When finished comment down below with a simple hello and a done! =)
Winer will be announced this Friday July 13th!